Running & Chasing in the Twin Flame dynamic.
Many of us on the twin flame path are aware of the runner/chaser dynamic which is a result of fear-based “karmic” programming we often have picked up from parents, the people around us and a lack of self-love and respect from toxic people and environments.
It’s not “meant” to be a part of the Twin Flame Union process but often is, because it was something learnt from Karmic relationships and patterns. When we still have karmic wounds to heal, Twin Flames will trigger and push each other away to heal enough to come back together for the next round of healing until eventually they are healed enough to come together and heal / work through residual stuff in Union.
There is the misconception about the Runner / Chaser dynamic though. Contrary to what we are often taught, we are not really running away from or chasing our Twin Flames.
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Seeking What We Already Have
We often chase after what we think is lacking in our lives, like love, affection, attention, validation, respect, money etc.
When we focus on what we already have, and what we have within we begins to realise we either already have what we desire or we have the means to access / bring it into our lives without chasing out of fear and desperation. So when we think it is our Twin Flames we “lack” we are not chasing THEM but the FEELING we desire from being with them - the feeling of love, which makes us feel real, connected and whole within.
But many of us have experienced that feeling of Twin Flame love even without the physical aspect of them being around us because we often feel them energetically. That love is ENERGY and the physical form is a part of the EXPRESSION of that energy. Our role is to follow those feelings of love, whether that’s focusing on our own stuff, or following the pull to be with our twin flames in some way, at any given time. How we express our love for our Twin Flame, also comes through how we express love for ourselves (self respect, self care, self compassion, self kindness etc).
When we RUN from our Twin Flames what we often run from is the fear of more of the same trauma or abuse we have endured in karmic dynamics thinking the twin flame dynamic is too good to be true, when in reality is meant to be the baseline NORMAL for us. Whenever we show up in the Twin Flame connection trying to play out old karmic programming it will only push you apart again until you learn to see those patterns and heal them so you can connect from love and not out of fear, or trying to control things.
I have spent 16 years working through heaps of karmic wounding from this lifetime and previous ones, and it is only recently I feel like Union is truly starting to happen for real, although in truth we are already “together” on a Soul level. The mind is what causes separation by believing things that keep us apart in the psychical that do not align to the truth. But that is were free will comes in. We still have to CHOOSE love in every moment, which means choosing ourselves so we can choose our Twins out of love and not fear.
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Acknowledge Your Fears
Fear exists to protect us from harm, but when we stay stuck in old fears they become destructive causing the very situations we hope to avoid.
It helps to ACCEPT your fears as valid because they exist for a reason - like ego, it protects but can get misdirected. These parts of us have a place and by honouring them rather than rejecting them you will find more peace within yourself and help alleviate blocks to union. Allow fear to show you the problems, but let your higher mind and self resolve those issues out of love.
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Blessings
Bex
